Is it them? Or is it you?

Are we culling people from our social media so that we don’t have to turn and face our triggers?

I see people clearing out people on social media, and asking people to leave a comment if they want to stay around or see value in them.

I get that some people can be dicks and be nasty on social media, some hold opposing views and constantly push their agenda while slandering yours, some will bring way too much personal emotion into their response and attack anyone and any comment that does not agree with theirs.

I recently deleted a handful of people on face book who in the same one week, engaged on my content,or asked for advice/free coaching or responded to a call to action. When I spoke to them, the conversation turned sour when I either, advised the answer is to take more responsibility and called them out on an avoidance pattern or when I said it’s now time to get out their credit card out and do the real work, because those who pay, pay attention.

No sales were made for 2 chats and I was feeling pretty depleted. I noticed I was turning my judgmental thoughts and tongue to these people.

Knowing what I know, I understood I was being taught an invaluable lesson.

I took myself through my Self-Responsibility process and clearly saw...

These sour conversations were because of me. Or another way of putting it is, these people who were getting funny with me, were who I used to be! Old energy, expectations and beliefs were seeping back into my current experience, to teach me something....

I remembered all the times I grossed out at people sliding into my DMs (facebook inbox), with pitches and what felt like fake ‘how’s everything in your world’ messages. FELT YUCK...

Also remembered taking pride in shutting anyone down who sounded 'salesy', or out smarting them at their own game! Trying to turn the sale around. FELT ANGRY...

...that people would dare try and sell to me, do I look like a need help? Do I look like I am lacking?

The projected answer was NO I AM NOT, DO NOT MESSAGE ME SELLING YOUR SHIT

The real answer however, was YES I AM. Yes I believe I’m not enough to succeed on my own and Yes I believe I was lacking in self esteem and confidence TO BE, DO AND HAVE what these people selling to me, had grown to BEING comfortable DOING, and therefore had a lot more ease HAVING these conversations with me.

But rather than own this, I projected it onto the people who were BEING who I really wanted to be.

If we desire to be success in our businesses not just on the financial side, but internally as well with how fulfilled we are, then we would pay to learn that EVERYTHING is a reflection of us. No exceptions. And it’s up to us whether we pick up on what is really being communicated to us by life..

See the Universe doesnt speak English. It speaks in Code.

Owning your projections and triggers is the quickest way to learning the language of life.

I have created a short guide relative to Women in Business to help you to take responsibility of your emotions, projections and triggers that will teach you:

➕ what your emotions, projections and triggers mean ➕ how to translate what is being communicated to you, from life through your emotions, projections and triggers, because the universe doesn’t speak English ➕how to shift your state, from Fear Based to Fulfilment Based

When you shift your state of being from deflecting, avoiding and hiding to one of responsibility and receptivity - YOU

WILL RECIEVE MORE:

High quality Leads Fast flowing Cash flow Fulfilling Opportunities

Which was exactly what happened!

Less than 2 hours after owning the 3rd triggering sales chat that week, I had jumped onto Zoom and within 15 mins I took deposit over the phone to seal the sale.

If you want a copy of that guide comment the word ‘GUIDE’ and I’ll hook you UP.

I would like to add to this message that it is healthy and encouraged to delete/remove people from social media and real life who cross your boundaries and try to work their own shit out on you because they don’t know how to work themselves out internally.

However, being willing to ask the question, is it them, or is it me...this is self responsibility, taking responsibility and care for yourself.

So ladies if you are curious and loving it, comment ‘GUIDE’ to learn to become consistent at creating change.

Jade